What most people don’t know about me is that I struggled with embracing being “too feminine”. I have always gotten compliments on my voice like, “you have a sexy voice”. Then there was my dancing..".how can you move like that?" Even just walking, I would get stares. I actually started smoking in my twenties so that I could sound manly. Sadly it had the opposite effect and I sounded more like Eartha Kitt’s Cat Woman. 

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Those were all the outward "typical" sexy feminine challenges I refused to embrace. My innate soft- heartedness and peace-seeking nature led to being steam rolled often. So I adapted a hard shell that was a heavy burden.

Somewhere between becoming a wife and a mother I evolved, I fell in love with the joy of my femininity. I defaulted into my genuinely compassionate and loving self. I learned more about all of the sexy greats beginning with Eartha Kitt, Lena Horne, Diahann Carroll and Sade. I studied from the spiritual, sensuality, experiential and practical and discovered a gold mine in pleasure through presence. Yes, there are volumes on sensuality in Islam and I write about it in my book Detached Love.

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